How to Squirt: Understanding Female Ejaculation

Few topics in sexuality generate as much curiosity - and misinformation - as squirting. Some people think it's a myth. Others treat it as the ultimate goal of female pleasure. The reality is more nuanced and more interesting than either extreme suggests.

What Is Squirting?

Squirting (also called female ejaculation) refers to the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sexual arousal or orgasm. It's a real phenomenon experienced by some women and people with vulvas, though not everyone can do it, and those who can don't necessarily do it every time.

What's the Fluid?

Research on this is still evolving. Studies suggest the fluid is primarily diluted urine with some components from the Skene's glands (sometimes called the female prostate). This doesn't make it "just peeing" - the fluid is distinctly different in composition, and the experience is tied to sexual arousal and stimulation, not urinary function.

Is It the Same as Female Ejaculation?

Technically, some researchers distinguish between squirting which involves larger volumes of more dilute fluid from the bladder and female ejaculation which involves smaller amounts of milky fluid from Skene's glands. In common usage, people use these terms interchangeably. Both are normal variations of sexual response.

Can Everyone Squirt?

The honest answer: we don't know for certain. Some experts believe all women are anatomically capable; others think there's variation in whether people can experience it.

What we do know is that some people squirt easily and regularly while others have never squirted despite trying. Some people can learn to squirt who previously could not. Physical psychological and relational factors all play roles.

If you're curious about trying, go in with an open mind rather than an expectation. Making squirting a "goal" creates pressure that often works against the relaxation required.

The G-Spot Connection

Squirting is most commonly associated with G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is an area on the front wall of the vagina, a few inches in, that feels different in texture (often ridged or spongy) and is highly sensitive for many people.

The G-spot is thought to be connected to the Skene's glands and the urethral sponge. Pressure on this area can create the sensation of needing to urinate - and if you push through that sensation rather than clenching against it, squirting sometimes occurs.

Techniques That May Help

1. Relaxation Is Essential

Squirting requires letting go - literally. Tensing up or trying to "hold it in" works against the release. This is psychologically challenging because the sensation often feels like you need to pee.

Practical tips include emptying your bladder beforehand to reduce anxiety about peeing. Put down towels so you are not worried about mess. Breathe deeply rather than holding your breath. Let go of expectations about the outcome.

2. Build Arousal First

Squirting rarely happens without significant arousal. Don't go straight for G-spot stimulation - build up with whatever turns you on. Extended foreplay, clitoral stimulation, oral sex, fantasizing. The more aroused you are, the more engorged the G-spot area becomes, and the more likely squirting becomes possible.

3. G-Spot Stimulation

Locate the G-spot: Insert fingers (one or two) palm-up into the vagina and curl them in a "come here" motion toward the front wall. The texture there often feels different - ridged or spongy compared to smoother vaginal walls.

For stimulation techniques try the come-here motion with curved fingers pressing and releasing against the front wall. Steady pressure with a sustained push against the G-spot works for some. Vibration from G-spot vibrators provides consistent stimulation. Combined stimulation with G-spot plus clitoral simultaneously often works best.

4. Push Out, Don't Clench

When the sensation builds and feels like you might pee, the instinct is to clench and stop it. For squirting, you need to do the opposite - bear down slightly, as if pushing out. This is often when the release happens.

This is the most counterintuitive part. Practice in a low-pressure environment, alone, where you can experiment without embarrassment.

5. Positions That Help

Positions that allow G-spot access and where the receiving partner can relax include lying on back with hips elevated where a partner's fingers or toy can access the G-spot easily. Doggy style works because the penetration angle often hits the G-spot. Cowgirl lets the person on top control angle and pressure.

Common Obstacles

"I'm Afraid I'll Pee"

This is the biggest barrier. The sensation does feel similar to needing to urinate because the same general area is being stimulated. Solutions include peeing right before so you know your bladder is empty. Accept that even if some urine mixes in it is not a big deal. Put down towels so there is no mess concern. Practice alone first to understand your body's responses.

"Nothing's Happening"

Squirting does not happen for everyone and does not happen every time even for those who can. If you are trying and it is not working focus on what feels good rather than the goal. Try different stimulation patterns. Increase arousal before attempting. Accept it might not happen and that is okay.

"I Can't Relax Enough"

Relaxation is genuinely difficult when trying something new and vulnerable. Solo practice removes partner pressure. Time and repetition build comfort. Deep breathing and consciously relaxing muscles help.

For Partners

If you're helping a partner explore squirting:

No pressure. Making it a goal creates anxiety that works against relaxation. Focus on pleasure, not achievement.

Build arousal extensively. Don't rush to the "technique." Extended foreplay makes everything more likely to work.

Communicate. Ask about pressure, speed, angle. Everyone's body is different.

Prepare the space. Towels down, no judgment about mess. Creating a safe environment matters.

Keep going when it feels close. When your partner says "don't stop," maintain exactly what you're doing - same pressure, same speed, same angle.

What to Expect

If squirting happens what does it look like? Volume varies from a small amount to significant liquid. Feeling varies as some experience it as an intense orgasm while others feel it as a release separate from orgasm. It is often accompanied by strong sensations since the buildup and release tend to be intense. It may not happen on command as even people who squirt regularly do not do it every time.

If It Doesn't Happen

Squirting is not a measure of sexual success or pleasure. Many people have incredible sex lives without ever squirting. Some people try and it simply doesn't happen for their body.

If you have explored and it is not working focus on what does feel good. Do not treat it as a failure. Consider that G-spot stimulation itself might be pleasurable even without ejaculation. Explore other aspects of pleasure instead.

What This Comes Down To

Squirting is real, but it's not magic and it's not required. Some people experience it, some don't. Those who do often find it intensely pleasurable, but it's not inherently better than other types of orgasm or sexual pleasure.

If you're curious, explore with relaxation and openness rather than pressure and goals. If it happens, enjoy it. If it doesn't, you've likely discovered other things that feel good along the way. That's the real point of sexual exploration - learning what works for your body, whatever form that takes.